Greetings
Hello Leafers!! How are you?
I know you are wondering what has been happening with me and why I keep taking breaks, I took this particular break because I needed to focus on preparing for my exams.
I’m thankful that is over! Today, we will be discussing the repercussions of holding on to things or people too tightly.
Background
As you know I reflect a lot. I am also a sucker for discussing issues and ideas and looking at things from different perspectives.
I was reflecting some time ago, on how dangerous or counterproductive it is to be overly protective of people or things. Coincidentally, I listened to a homily around that time and it was on the same thing. So I’m here to share my thoughts or lessons on it.
Please Note: In writing this piece, I struggled to remember the exact words to describe my message but I hope you understand.
The Gist
In recent times, I have been shown how futile it is to hold tightly to something(s) we want. I have also come to understand that it’s often human nature to cling to things and people we cherish. It’s like our default reaction is to squeeze and keep close, to hold very firmly. The more precious, the tighter the grip. It is our way of making sure they do not disappear or that nothing (bad) happens to them.
I believe what we do by holding too tightly is the same thing we are trying so hard to avoid; we push away, we damage. It’s as though the opposite reaction takes place; the object looks for a tiny way to escape and then runs with full speed.
Let me give a pictorial example:
If you hold grains too tightly, what happens? It escapes. If you squeeze an egg, it will break. Children of overprotective parents will tell you the stories of their escapades and we know if their parents ever hear of them, their mouths will remain open for a while. These children often struggle with going back home to visit after independence or maturity. Relationships where one of the partners is too clingy, the other partner feels so choked and wants to get a break or to leave at all means
In short, the reverse is the case when we hold too tightly. We do it to avoid something but the specific act attracts the same thing we are trying so hard to avoid. It’s funny but it’s true.
This is not to say we should not guard what we cherish. Holding firmly is great, the extreme is the problem.
So what do you think? What are your thoughts? Has this ever happened to you before? Let me read all about it in the comment section!
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Until Next Time,
It’s Sweetbitterleaf 🥳
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